Wednesday 23 January 2013

Re: ***keep_mailing*** 15 Things to give up to be happy

On 1/20/13, Junaid Tahir <mjunaidtahir@gmail.com> wrote:
> This is indeed a brilliant article and needs to be read again and again
> ...
>
>
> by FinerMinds Team
> The following article was written by one of our very own Mindvalley Team
> members, Dana, and is a piece from the heart. After receiving an astounding
> 318,000 shares we felt that it was only fair to share this with you so you
> too can identify the 15 practices, beliefs and habits that may be
> preventing you from being happy. The article is a little longer than usual
> but it is seasoned with powerful insights and peppered with inspirational
> quotes. Enjoy!¬
>
> Here is a list of 15 things, which, if you give up on them, will make your
> life a lot easier and you'll feel much, much happier. We hold on to so many
> things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering ì and
> instead of letting them all go and allowing ourselves to be stress-free and
> happy, we cling on to them.
> Well, not anymore. Starting today, we will give up on all those things that
> no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go!
>
>
>
> 1. Give up your need to always be right. There are so many of us who can't
> stand the idea of being wrong ì wanting to always be right ì even at the
> risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and
> pain for us and for others. It's just not worth it. Whenever you feel the
> úurgentù need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask
> yourself this question from Dr. Wayne Dyer:¬ úWould I rather be right, or
> would I rather be kind?ù What difference will that make? Is your ego really
> that big?
>
> 2. Give up your need for control.¬ Be willing to give up your need to
> always control everything that happens to you and around you ì situations,
> events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, co-workers, or just
> strangers you meet on the street ì just allow them to be. Allow everything
> and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will
> that make you feel.
> úBy letting it go, it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it
> go.
> But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.ù¬ Lao Tzu
>
>
> 3. Give up on blame.¬ Give up on your need to blame others for what you
> have or don't have, for what you feel or don't feel. Stop giving your
> powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.
>
> 4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk.¬ Oh my. How many people are
> hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive
> self-defeating mindset? Don't believe everything that your mind is telling
> you ì especially if it's negative and self-defeating. You are better than
> that.
> ¬ úThe mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however,
> it becomes very destructive.ù¬ Eckhart Tolle
>
> 5. Give up your limiting beliefs¬ about what you can or cannot do, about
> what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to
> allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread
> your wings and fly!
> úA belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the
> mind.ù¬ Elly Roselle
>
> 6. Give up complaining.¬ Give up your constant need to complain about those
> many, many, maaany things ì people, situations and events that make you
> unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can
> make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It's not the situation
> that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it.
> Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.
>
> 7. Give up the luxury of criticism.¬ Give up your need to criticize things,
> events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we
> are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved
> and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is
> wished by us all.
>
> 8. Give up your need to impress others.¬ Stop trying so hard to be
> something that you're not just to make others like you. It doesn't work
> this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you're
> not, the moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and
> embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you,
> effortlessly.
>
> 9. Give up your resistance to change.¬ Change is good. Change will help you
> move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and
> also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change ì
> don't resist it.
> úFollow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there
> were only walls.ù¬ Joseph Campbell
>
> 10. Give up labels.¬ Stop labeling the things, people or events that you
> don't understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind,
> little by little. Minds only work when open.The highest form of ignorance
> is when you reject something you don't know anything about.ù¬ Dr. Wayne
> Dyer
>
> 11. Give up on your fears.¬ Fear is just an illusion, it doesn't exist ì
> you created it. It's all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside
> will fall into place.
> úThe only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.ù¬ Franklin D. Roosevelt
>
> 12. Give up your excuses.¬ . A lot of times we limit ourselves because of
> the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving
> ourselves and our lives, we get stuck and lie to ourselves, using all kind
> of excuses ì excuses that 99.9% of the time, are not even real.
>
> 13. Give up the past.¬ I know, I know. This one's hard. Especially when the
> past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so
> frightening. But, you have to take into consideration the fact that the
> present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are
> now longing for ì the past that you are now dreaming about ì was ignored by
> you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything
> you do and enjoy life. After all, life is a journey not a destination. Have
> a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in
> the now.
>
> 14. Give up attachment.¬ This is a concept that, for most of us, is so hard
> to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too (it still is), but
> it's not impossible. You get better and better at it with time and
> practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things (and that doesn't
> mean you give up your love for them ì because love and attachment have
> nothing to do with one another. Attachment comes from a place of fear,
> while love¶ well, real love is pure, kind, and selfless; where there is
> love there can't be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot
> co-exist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You
> will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without
> even trying. A state beyond words
>
> 15. Give up living your life to other people's expectations.¬ Way too many
> people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives
> according to what others think is best for them; they live their lives
> according to what their parents think is best for them; to what their
> friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media
> think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling.
> They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people's
> expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what
> makes them happy, what they want, what they need¶ and eventually, they
> forget about themselves.¬ You have one life ì this one right now ì you must
> live it, own it, and especially don't let other people's opinions distract
> you from your path.
>
> Dana is the Product Development Manager for Mindvalley and the founder of
> Purpose Fairy Blog. A student of art, economics, and psychology, Dana¬
> draws inspiration from novels by Lao Tzu with The Tao Te Ching to the lives
> of leaders such as Wayne Dyer and Carl Jung. She infuses life-changing and
> mind-transforming approaches in the works she does,¬ challenging¬ people to
> challenge themselves
>
> *M Junaid Tahir*
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