Junaid Tahir <email@example.com> wrote:
>I have an extremely bad temper and often my family and friends are the
>receiving end and this has caused many unpleasant instances for me and my
>loved ones. How can I gain control of myself? Are there any supplications
>that will help me? I do make an effort to make wudū or make dhikr on the
>few occasions when I remember.
>Assalamu Alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh
>Thank you for your question.
>Your concern for anger management and related matters is admirable. May
>Allāh bless us all with calmness, gentleness and good character.
>The Prophet Muḥammad (peace be upon him) instructed the one in anger to
>recite ta'awwudh (A'ūdhū billāhi min al shayṭāni al rajīm – I seek refuge
>in Allāh from the rejected devil).
>Salmān bin Ṣard (may Allāh be pleased with him) said, "I was seated with
>the Prophet (peace and blessings upon him) while two men were using coarse
>language at each other. The face of one of them had gone red while his
>jugular veins swelled. The Messenger of Allāh (peace and blessings upon
>him) said, 'I know of a statement if he is to say it, that [rage] which he
>is experiencing would go away. If only he would say "A'ūdhū billāhi min al
>shayṭāni al rajīm'" (Sunan Abī Dawūd and Tirmidhī)
>Some additional recommendations are listed below:
>• Make wudhū (ablution) [See: Musnad Aḥmad].
>• Make supplication to Allāh to protect you from the harms of anger and
>• Make the dhikr (remembrance) of Allāh.
>• Move away from what angers you.
>• Be indifferent to those who seek to make you angry.
>• Busy yourself with something creative so that you are not occupied with
>that which is triggering your anger.
>• Realize that this will be over sooner or later.
>• Move on. Do not let things you cannot change keep haunting you.
>• Be moderate and balanced in the things you do (schedule, work, diet,
>sleep downtime etc.)
>• Eat healthy and exercise regularly.
>• Improve your problem solving and communication.
>• Accept your mistakes and be honest to yourself.
>• Learn to forgive and forget.
>• Take anger management classes by professional counselors and follow
>May Allāh facilitate success.
>And Allah knows best.
>Answered by Shaykh Yusuf Badat
>Hadith of the Day Imam
>Imam of the Islamic Foundation of Toronto and Director of Mathabah Institute
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