***keep_mailing*** I am an Ideal Person

Quite often you have thought that:

There is nothing wrong in what I do to others;

My thoughts about myself and others are perfectly logical;

The way I communicate is very sound and reasonable;

So overall I am close to an ideal human being !!!

 

Right? Wrong. You can be wrong some times. Everyone can be wrong sometimes and if you don't mind, let me say, you can be wrong quite often; several times a day even. It's my polite way of telling you that there is nothing wrong in being wrong as long as you understand your fault and strive to eradicate it. Actually, the sooner you confess this fact, the sooner you will open the doors of self-improvement and pave the way to reach your destination to achieve your life-time goals.

 

Remember this reality that successful people are those who consistently audit themselves on what they think, what and when they speak and how they act. Such people keep improving their mental horizons and their personality traits and consequently become the 'men of honor' in the eyes of the world. On the contrary, unsuccessful people are those who keep finding faults in others and keep considering themselves as a concrete ideal personality and leave no cushion for improvement.

 

So in conclusion it's a matter of choice on whether you would like to be a victorious person or a complete disaster. A wise man said that I have learnt the wisdom from fools because I don't do what they do. So the advice here is to keep your mind open all the times; observe others not to find their faults but to improve yourself. One day you will become what you consistently think and what you repeatedly do.

 

For Muslims there is a Hadith of Prophet Muhammad PBUH which says that you are in loss if your today is not better than yesterday. So take the dosage of wisdom every day by learning something new to keep polishing yourself in order to fulfill your dreams.

 

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***keep_mailing*** The Power Of Not Looking Back

If you carefully observe the people who are in stress, you will notice that they keep thinking about a specific event, conversation, failure, brawl or hard luck again and again which has happened to them in past. Such people do not have control on their thinking process hence they allow their brain to keep wandering in the past. It's a known fact that bad luck happens to everyone, it's people's attitude and they way of reaction which defines the degree of stress. As stress and happiness are vice versa so more stress results in less happiness or in some cases loss of happiness. Article written by Junaid.Tahir
Always remember that everyone passes through tragic moments in life however 
you will agree that the more you think about bad things happened in the past, the more quantum of stress you add in your brain. 
The chains of negativity and stress around your neck need to be broken and thrown away so as to move on with your life. The fact remains the same that you cannot change the past, neither you can boil the ocean so a wise person would not keep thinking about something which has already happened instead he would learn the lesson from the past and take measures which need to be done in order to prevent such happening in future. A wise man will always focus on the solutions instead of thinking about the problems.  Article written by Junaid.Tahir
I recommend you to take the pen and list down all the issues from your past on a page. You will, eventually, end up with a very limited number of issues which are bothering your mind and adding depression again and again. Now the next step is to split these issues into two groups. One group for which you do have some solution and the other group should contain the issues which are out of control. The worries and sorrows from the second group should be shun away. You need to train your brain not to think of something which is beyond control. Divert your focus on the issues for which you can do something. Do it now because this time will also become past and you would be cursing these moments for taking action at right time.
You may want to read my articles on stress by clicking here 
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***keep_mailing*** 11 proven ways to gain unstoppable confidence

 

 

 

By: Joshua Uebergang #1 - KNOWLEDGE IS POWER  Those who know are ultimately much more confident in any arena than those shrouded in ignorance. Use your spare time to read up on the things that interest you, on the things that you are curious about, and build up a solid base of knowledge and critical thinking. The more you know, the more sure of yourself you will be in any situation.  #2 - EXPERIENCE  Uncertainty is the biggest drain on your self-confidence. Succumbing to doubt ensures you will never believe in yourself. The more often you do something, the more certain you become. With certainty comes confidence.  #3 - CARE-FREE ATTITUDE  Try to walk through your day with as easy and care-free of an attitude as you can muster, because someone who is it ease with him or herself is someone who is confident. Build unstoppable confidence by not getting hung up on the petty issues and minor irritations that help wear you down.  #4 - HONEST SELF-ASSESSMENT  Take stock of yourself. Brainstorm for a bit and compose a list of your good qualities and bad, the things you excel at and the things you need to improve upon, and once you have a clear picture of yourself much of the uncertainty that breeds doubt will wash away.  #5 - ANALYZE  Take the time to properly think through every problem, and the confidence in your skills will grow.  #6 - BE THOROUGH  Try to be as complete and thorough at every task you attempt. Completing tasks builds confidence in your ability to always see projects through to their proper conclusion.  #7 - IDENTIFY YOUR LIMITS, AND EXCEED THEM  Once you have assessed yourself, make a list of goals you wish to accomplish, and get to work. You now know your true limits, so the only thing left to do is push beyond them and set your sights on new frontiers.  #8 - BE OPEN TO HELPING OTHERS  Don't close yourself off to friends, acquaintances and coworkers. The more you put yourself out there in business and social situations, the more quickly you will build confidence in your ability to navigate these sometimes tricky waters.  #9 - COMPOSE YOURSELF  Dress well, groom yourself, compose your identity as a person who is well put together, and you will feel confident when meeting new people and doing new things.  #10 - BE DECISIVE  While it is okay to take time to analyze and think situations through, the time comes when you must be decisive and act.Decisive people are confident; not confident people are decisive.  #11 – BE COMPLETE  Know yourself fully, wash away your own doubts about yourself, your identity and your capabilities, and present every aspect of yourself in every situation and you will have no reason to doubt your confidence. Become your full, real self. A lot of confidence building techniques simply do not work. I've tried everything out there and studied confident people to see what makes them who they are. Continue reading this article for the top 11 traits you can develop to build strong self-confidence that attracts the people, job, and pleasures of life you want. Grab more free tips to build self-confidence with my social skills and communication eNewsletter to make friends wherever you go by clicking here.     M Junaid Tahir Read my Blog : http://paradigmwisdom.blogspot.com/

 

     

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***keep_mailing*** Ten Point Program for happy Family

1. Avoid the next quarrel: Never lose temper at the same time. Don't let the sun set on your quarrels (Never prolong fights if at all started). It is OK to say "I am sorry"
2. Do not expect perfection from your spouse: Marriage is coming together of two imperfect beings. Don't expect wife or husband to like this or that, accept them as they are.
3. Be a Good Listener:  Think before speaking, it is a good idea to weigh before you speak. You are master of unspoken words but slave of spoken words. Better than listening from ear is listening through mind (with attention) and better than that is listening from heart.
4. Be a good forgiver: Some people forgive but they keep the memory alive or they forgive conditionally. Forgiveness should be complete and unconditional.
5. Grow in the spirit of humility: Be humble. Egos bring arrogance which divide and separate people.
6. Learn the art of appreciation: We all like to be appreciated. Always appreciate in front of others. Never criticize in a company of friends and relatives, you will get opportunities in privacy.
7. Do not argue: Winning love and friendship is far greater than winning an argument. It is OK to discuss with a open mind. Learn to win love and affection rather than arguments.
8. Develop healthy sense of humor: Learn to laugh and be cheerful. It is a great tonic for healthy living and being accepted by friends. It is important to laugh with others and NOT at others.
9. Always lend a helpful hand: You will win over if you have this attitude of offering a helpful hand with or without asking.
10. Bring GOD back into your home: This is one of the most important one. Have a common time for prayers. It brings families together. Families that pray together stays together

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***keep_mailing*** The Trials in Life

 

"We may dislike the trials God has given us. Though pious people have been reminding us that those trials only exist to make us stronger or to shape us into being a better person, some of us tend not to see the link. Alhamdulillah, a Muslim guy told me this: "Like a kid who hates medicines though the medicines are really what his body needs, the trials God give us are only here because they are what we really need to be a better person

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***keep_mailing*** Hadith: Legal or Illegal Earning

Bismillah Walhamdulillah Was Salaatu Was Salaam 'ala Rasulillah

As-Salaam Alaikum Wa-Rahmatullahi Wa-Barakatuhu

Trade - 8th Shawwal 1433 (26th August 2012)

Narrated Abu Huraira (Radi-Allahu 'anhu):

The Prophet (Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa Sallam) said, "A time will come when one
will not care how one gains one's money, legally or illegally."

Bukhari Vol. 3 : No. 275

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***keep_mailing*** Hadith: Forged Statement & Witness

Sahih Al Bukhari - Book of Good Manners And Form (Al-Adab)

Volumn 008, Book 073, Hadith Number 007.
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Narated By Abu Bakra RA: Allah's Apostle PBUH said thrice, "Shall I not inform you of the biggest of the great sins?" We said, "Yes, O Allah's Apostle" He said, "To join partners in worship with Allah: to be undutiful to one's parents." The Prophet sat up after he had been reclining and added, "And I warn you against giving forged statement and a false witness; I warn you against giving a forged statement and a false witness." The Prophet kept on saying that warning till we thought that he would not stop.

 

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